Published on March 16, 2005 By Iron Rob In Home & Family
So it’s been a while since I’ve written anything on this blog, and that’s due in part to the string of bad luck my family has endured in the last month or two. It started small. Our garage door opener broke. I’ve always heard that homeowners have to do a lot of maintenance, but since I’ve only lived in a house for nine months, this was the first major home maintenance project I had to take on myself. Over the course of two weekends, my sister-in-law and I pieced together the parts of the new garage door opener and bolted it in (hopefully) to the proper rafters, and when I finally pressed the button to see if it worked, it did.

Then, my wife was in a car accident. Everyone involved was fine, no real injuries at all, but the car was totaled. So we had to rent a car while we went about buying a new one. And one afternoon, while the rental car was in our garage, a spring on the garage door snapped, totally unrelated to the garage door opener, trapping the rental car inside. I don’t know how many of you have tried to lift a garage door without the aid of springs, but it is difficult. With some help, I got the rental car out and hired someone to come and help me fix it.

We bought a car to replace our old one, and we were so excited about it, and felt we’d made a great choice, and when we got it home we realized that while we’d been signing the papers to buy the car, someone in the car dealership parking lot had dinged it. A minor scratch, but it just drove me crazy.

Finally, last week, my boss had some kind of melt down and began to advocate for a total restructuring of the radio program I work for, which would involve me not working on it. He’s since decided not to be so rash, but I’m seriously considering looking for other ways to make a living.

I joked to my wife that someone must have put a curse on us. And since I’ve been dealing a lot with the insurance company, I’ve been wondering what insurance agents think about luck. Do they think all accidents are freak occurrences, or do they know better than any of us how dark clouds hang over certain individuals?

One of the things my wife and I have been doing a lot of lately is watching the TV program 24 on DVD, and its conspiratorial storyline feeds into my paranoia about all these misfortunes. Maybe my garage door spring didn’t just snap. Maybe a Serbian terrorist is lurking around my backyard, looking for things to sabotage. Maybe the car dealership is in on the conspiracy, and they purposefully damaged my car just before I drove it away, in hopes of destabilizing my mental state. Maybe the insurance company is toying with me, by making me call them back repeatedly, to answer the same questions again and again. And they’ve even gotten to my boss. There’s no one I can trust.

Last night my wife said she was going in see if the baby was awake. She said, “If I don’t come back in a couple minutes…” and then trailed off. She was struggling to find her train of thought, so I finished her sentence for her.

“If you don’t come back, I’ll send a field agent after you.”

Comments
on Mar 16, 2005
I'm going to say no, luck does not exist. If there is a god type figure then everything is part of their plan. If not, then we just don't understand the world enough to know why these things happen. Either way, no luck (good or bad) for us. Although I hope you have fewer unpleasant situations in the future.
on Mar 16, 2005
IronRob: Very, very interesting post, sorry for your misfortune
Some people would say bad things come in threes.......if so, you've had your share now!
My older sister would say the universe is dropping pebbles on your head, and if you don't listen, the boulders will fall....
My former boss would have said "better you than me" and that always stung......of course his smile softened the blow.
I've always figured I didn't know how to run between the rain drops and avoid "the bad luck", now I know it's a matter of making sure everything is secured, working properly, and then praying like all get out!!! Trudy...
on Mar 16, 2005

I have had the springs on my garage door go down a few years ago.  That's rough.  (A garage door is deceptively difficult to lift without the aid of springs.  Even a fiberglass one...)

That is a striking feeling of impotence, isn't it?  Standing in front of your garage, knowing that the door can't be opened.

on Mar 16, 2005
Luck ? Fate? Kharma? Random series of unfortunate events ? Hmmmmmm

My experience tells me that there are very few things we can control, good or bad, BUT, for some unexplained reason, good things tend to always happen to some folks, while misfortune tends to visit others with the same frequency. ( Why )

Is it "living right"? No, because I've seen some of the most unethical, immoral SOB's profit from sheer happenstance, while well natured, if not passive folk have stumbled into chaos......go figure.

I have experienced good fortune at Atlantic City,and The Atlantis, only to face financial crisis at home. Did I use up all my "luck" at the tables when I should have reserved it for business?

I have negotiated my way out of that financial mess, only to discover my youngest has type 1 diabetes, did I waste the left-over luck on business instead of family?

I have decided that the old quotation " Shit happens " is the perfect way to look at life...there are no curses, no omnipotent punishment for transgressions, just Shit.....;

Some times it good shit, some times it's bad shit, but all of it can be used for fertilizer..............

So it goes........
on Mar 22, 2005
I like the quote: "Shit happens, some good, some bad, but all of it can be used for fertilizer..." Way to go Dynosoar.

I also think some of "luck" is all a matter of perspective. For one, I'd say that you, Rob, have actually been very lucky in the last few weeks that Nancy was okay after what sounds like a very bad car accident. It may be hard to see that now, but don't forget that it is indeed an extravagant luxury to take the blessings in our lives for granted.

Speaking of blessings, I'd say counting them is the key to the good luck/bad luck dance. If we take the time to actually force ourselves to find the good stuff going around, well to state the obvious, then we do actually find the good stuff going around, because contratry to what it feels like sometimes, it is there somewhere. This is especially hard to do after a series of unfortunate events, but probably the most important time to do so.

Terrible-horrible-no-good-very-bad things happen in life. To everyone. It isn't a matter of luck. It's a matter of course. Everybody dies someday don't they? If you are blessed with long life you are cursed with watching those around you die. Bad stuff happens NO MATTER WHAT. --- BUT perhaps the more revolutionary realization is that good stuff also does happen. Unfortunately we forget to notice sometimes. Also the good stuff seems to often morph into a sort of version of life many of us call "normal." Is normal lucky? Do we mistakenly believe that anything lower than a wonderful bliss we end up calling "normal" equals bad? I'm not sure if good luck or bad luck exist, but either way I know that I don't think it's healthy for people to build themselves a museum of misery and constantly add portraits to the galleries to worship and fetishize.

Not to shortchange suffering. It really sucks to have your job on the balance and your garage malfunctioning and your car totaled. It really does suck. No one can take that away. Just don't forget after a bout of cussing and swearing (and possibly even crying) to not let that bad stuff yank away your ability to notice that you did not actually have to send a field agent after Nancy when she went to check on the baby. She was indeed okay. Lucky you.